Change your Life: Step out of your Comfort Zone

08Feb12

Step Out of your Comfort Zone!

Its 5pm. You’re waiting for a blind date. Mentally, you’re thinking about “the checklist.” It’s the list for your potential partner. He must be over 6 foot tall, workout at least 3 times a week, ski and be funny. Not too much to ask, right? Wrong. This checklist is preventing you from stepping out of your comfort zone…and finding the right person.

So, please, throw out the checklist.

Here’s why.   The checklist is limiting. You’re so focused on what Mr. or Mrs. Right looks like, you’re missing great opportunities right in front of you. And think about this. If the way you’re dating, right now, isn’t working – it’s time to try something new!  Still with me?  Ok.  Good. Let’s talk about your comfort zone. And why it’s good to get a little uncomfortable.

Goodbye Comfort Zone!

Trying new things is uncomfortable. It’s human nature to avoid discomfort. By doing this, though, you’re missing out. That’s because this discomfort leads to personal growth. So, staying in your comfort zone isn’t a good thing.

You see, your comfort zone is elastic. It changes. So, as you try new things, your comfort zone expands. Plus, when your comfort zone gets bigger, you meet more people. Meeting more people significantly increases your chances of meeting that special someone.

Your Turn…

You’re ready to throw out your checklist AND step out of your comfort zone. Good! But where should you start? It all starts with you. It’s time to make a list…and think about what boundaries are holding you back. And what about that checklist?

Write it down. Go ahead. Then, crumple it up and throw it away. Literally, get rid of that checklist. Be open to meeting people who don’t have the qualities on your checklist.

Now, let’s think about where you’re meeting potential mates right now. Write it down. Then, write down 5 to 10 new ideas…that are outside of your comfort zone. Things you’ve never done before. New ideas to try. Here’s a warning. You might feel uncomfortable trying new things. Fight through it. Because this is when personal growth happens. And remember this. What you’re doing right now isn’t working, so it’s time to try something new.

Stepping out of your comfort zone doesn’t just increase your chances of meeting the right person. You’ll feel happier about yourself. And continue to challenge your comfort zone…rather than accepting it.

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